The bitter truth in Indian weddings

The bitter truth in Indian weddings

Indian weddings are the well-known big fat weddings throughout the world. A Party time for others and a burden for the one who has to spend all his savings which he has earned throughout his life. There was a time when people were really excited about the weddings and rather than only concentrating on the food used to give the warm blessings to the couple but today, we hardly even have time to see the bride and groom's faces.

When the invitation comes to us, barely anyone is curious to know about the bride or groom. The only thing that matters is the venue and time. Entreaties of 'You have to come!' and the earnest promise 'Of course, of course!' are exchanged. Sometimes I wonder what is the use of writing so many things like “the mantras”, “doli taron ki chaon mein” and blah blah when everyone is only concerned about the party details.

Ladies encumbered in their heavy ornaments and estimating the cost of the gifts for the bride whereas their consorts debating about the social issues as if they were going to reform the society very next day. What we really anticipate for is the announcement for the dinner. And then starts the race of the rats for food. No one cares to ask the inviter if he or she had something. A huge Pandemonium is created where there is very less chance that your outfit will come back in the same color as it was when you left from home.

I was in an aforementioned wedding last Saturday which was quite luxurious, but there happened something shocking. A man who was well suited was yelling in the crowd only because his name was left during “milini” time (a tradition in which there is a welcome of the groom’s family and usually blankets and money are given to them). I was really disappointed that if he is considering himself to be a wise man, then why he has to fight for a blanket? Left me baffled and amazed at the behavior of people in weddings. I wonder why their expectations jump to double rather than cooperating and helping the couple’s parents.

It’s acceptable that everyone is busy in their daily routines, but the irony comes when people criticize the arrangement thereafter the very next day. If we are really busy, we should be busy in all aspects. How painful it would be for the parents who’ve spent such burdensome amount and still have to face the criticism and that too from their own people.

The dowry era is now endangered, but these lavish weddings are becoming a primary concern for our country. If compared with old times when it used to be a heavenly and delightful moment whereas now it has become a competition among all to show their wealth but “the simple sit-down meals served lovingly on leafy pattals and people actually knowing their invitees is really incomparable”!